Saturday, April 24, 2010
"It's the heart afraid of breaking that never learns to dance."
Love is above all, the gift of oneself! To give your love away, to give yourself away, is always a risk. But without it there is nothing. This is a hard lesson to learn because sometimes in the process your heart gets broken. And putting the pieces back together again is anything but fun.
Ultimately, life and love cannot ever be fully understood.
As humans we want an answer or explanation for everything. We want a conclusion. We want to put it in a box, on the shelf, where it will sit for a while until we throw it away.
Over the past few weeks I have come to the conclusion that not attempting to understand each blemished relationship or difficult occurence leaves me a great deal freer. Trying to figure it out is useless, exhausting, and it wastes precious time. Searching for definitions does not change anything, and in most cases there is no explanation or tidy package, and we most likely will become lost in the attempt.
So perhaps the answer is simple, if we understand - fine. If we don't understand - fine.
Occurences are only temporary. It is my suggestion to not get caught up in the blur of it all. Life goes on. The complexity of it goes on. The pain of it goes on. The joy of it goes on.
Think for a moment how liberating it would be, if you simply allowed others to be who they are. We can't change them, nor control them. But we can love them. We can love them just the way they are.
Only we can decide how to react to a certain occurence. And I can tell you this, allowing negative emotions to dominate needs to stop. Negative emotions are products of external situations, and will pass and should never, for a single second, be allowed to dominate your life.
Every moment is an opportunity to make a new happy ending. We were not born to suffer from defeats, rather we were born to victory.
Tom Burns said it best, "You can't go back and make a brand new start, but you can start over and make a brand new ending."
Want to join me?